Pushing 30

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So there's a topic that has been brought to my attention more and more in the past few months: OMG YOU'RE ALMOST THIRSTY?!

If you're coming up on the age of thirty, you know what I'm talking about. The constant questions of when you're going to buy a house, get married, have children, own land, buy stocks, have your own company, etc. The list literally never ends. Sometimes I find these random slew of questions giving me anxiety, but most times I just sip my glass of wine (Pinot Grigio, more specifically) and tell them, when it happens, it happens. 

For example, we all know the famous "When are you getting married?!". It's even worse if you actually do bring a significant other around. Don't sweat it, if you're happy in your relationship and they're treating you well, then do you. I know so many people that feel pressure to get married because of family, friends or the idea of what they're supposed to be doing with their life at that moment. Don't let society get you all riled up, my friend. Take your time. I mean, granted, you shouldn't be in a relationship if you aren't thinking about being with that person for the long run, BUT you also don't want to ruin the situation by putting pressure because your 30th birthday is in a few years either. Enjoy your relationship, love each other, travel and get married when you're ready!

Secondly, when are you having babies?! Now, in defense of my ovaries, us women do have to consider our timespan for having children as it does decrease the more our age increases. Fear not, though, most women are actually having children at older ages in the past decade or so. It isn't as taboo as it was in the past. So, again, when people come knocking on your uterus trying to tell you to reproduce, tell them to have a seat and let you enjoy your wine. As much as I would love children, it should be up to you to have them, no one else. Children are aaaaaa loootttttttt of responsibility, time, dedication and money. Did I say money? Pop out some offspring when you're ready. 

Career. Sigh. So for some this may not apply. Some people may be happy where they are professionally, but for others, being in their late 20's and not owning a company or being the head of a Fortune 500 company might be an issue. Now, being an entrepreneur myself, I get it, you set your goals and you want to accomplish them without anyone in the way. Now, that takes time. Rome wasn't built in a day, my friends, and while I do commend those who have reached their professional peak at the age of 30, you shouldn't bang your head against a wall because you haven't accomplished what you've wanted to by 30. Take your time and live your life while accomplishing your goals. Make a list or a vision board and check off everything you do. You've got time. It's never too late. Don't let anyone sucker punch you into thinking other wise. 

Lastly, I think the most important thing you should be doing when you're "pushing 30" is focusing on becoming a better version of yourself. Whether that encompasses love, children, finances, career, etc, focus on being the greatest version of YOU. That way when 30 comes around, you have a better sense of self and what you want in your life. Don't let the world make you feel like you're supposed to be doing something you're not. Live your life and most importantly, DO YOU! 

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